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Jun 2, 2026
Is Incivility Increasing? If so, What Can We Do About It?
Research shows incivility is on the rise — in workplaces, courtrooms, and everyday life. Bill Eddy on why it's increasing and what professionals can do about it.
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May 12, 2026 · 7 min read
Teens vs. Social Media, Family and Peers: The Latest Court Cases and Mental Health Research
Teens vs. Social Media, Family and Peers:The Latest Court Cases and Mental Health Research © 2026 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Children are our future. But are the…
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Apr 8, 2026 · 9 min read
Left Brain and Right Brain Conflict Resolution
Left Brain and Right Brain Conflict Resolution © 2026 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. You are meeting Mary for the first time. She is angry about something and she is…
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Mar 11, 2026 · 6 min read
Do Narcissists Make Better Leaders?
Do Narcissists Make Better Leaders? © 2026 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. The world of business and leadership would seem to be dominated by narcissists, because of…
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Feb 12, 2026 · 17 min read
7 Ways Kids Absorb Parents' Emotions in Divorce
7 Ways Children’s Brains Absorb Their Parents’ Emotions in Divorce(And What You Can Do About It) © 2026 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Divorce is a stressful time…
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Jan 6, 2026 · 13 min read
Setting Limits in Divorce and Divorce Court
Setting Limits in Divorce and Divorce Court © 2026 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. January each year appears to be divorce month. Unhappy couples who have stayed…
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Dec 3, 2025 · 10 min read
4 Simple Techniques for Managing Conflict – Anywhere! (Including High Conflict Disputes)
4 Simple Techniques for Managing Conflict – Anywhere! (Including High Conflict Disputes) © 2025 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Conflict happens. It can be over a…
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Oct 21, 2025 · 12 min read
The Epstein Case: A Failure to Impose Consequences on Abusive Behavior
The Epstein Case A Failure to Impose Consequences on Abusive Behavior © 2025 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Ekaterina Ricci, MDR, MLS Politics aside, the case of…
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Sep 10, 2025 · 10 min read
Leaders and Limits: Setting Limits with Empathy
How leaders set firm limits and impose consequences with empathy, attention, and respect — Bill Eddy on managing without escalating conflict.
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May 1, 2025 · 9 min read
Violence and Mental Health
© 2022 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, JDWe live in an age of overlap between legal and mental health problems. It is frequently said that there are more people with…
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Sep 1, 2024
Reducing Polarization in Divorce and Custody Cases: 7 Modest Proposals
Reducing Polarization in Divorce and Custody Cases:7 Modest Proposals © 2024 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Divorce and child custody decisions are based on the…
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Aug 3, 2024
New Ways for Work®Leaders Course Delivers Immediate Impact
New Ways For Work® - Leaders Course Delivers Immediate Impact © 2024 by Cherolyn Knapp, B.Comm, LLB.B, Q.Med I had the pleasure of piloting HCI’s brand new…
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Aug 2, 2024 · 11 min read
How to Build a Team: 7 Relationship Skills for Managers
How to Build a Team 7 Relationship Skills for Managers and Other Leaders © 2024 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. In today's world, building and strengthening a team in…
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Jul 10, 2024 · 8 min read
Is Total Freedom the Goal?
Setting Boundaries: Is Total Freedom the Goal? © 2024 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Setting Boundaries in Relationships at Home, at Work and Online As we celebrate…
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Jun 14, 2024 · 6 min read
How Adult Bullies Find and Encourage Each Other on Social Media
How Adult Bullies Find and Encourage Each Other on Social Media © 2024 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Adult bullies have traditionally been kept on the fringes of…
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May 21, 2024 · 10 min read
SLIC Solutions: Setting Limits and Imposing Consequences in 2 ½ Steps
SLIC Solutions: Setting Limits and Imposing Consequences in 2 ½ Steps © 2024 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD We live in a rapidly changing world, with rules and…
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Apr 22, 2024
Domestic Violence and Personality Disorders: What’s the Connection?
Domestic Violence and Personality Disorders: What’s the Connection? © 2024 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. When I first had clients who were victim/survivors of…
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Mar 15, 2024
Can Children Make Independent Decisions in Dysfunctional Families?
Can Children Make Independent Decisions in Dysfunctional Families? © 2024 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. At least one state is considering the idea of allowing their…
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Jun 28, 2023
Foreword: The High Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Foreword from The High Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide by Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelleWhen I started reading The…
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Jan 4, 2023
Personality Disorders: The New Elephant in the Room
The New Elephant in the Room:Why All Professionals Need to Learn About Personality Disorders©2023 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.In 1994, a best-selling children’s book…
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Nov 9, 2021
EAR Statements Can Calm Clients and Anyone, Especially in Today’s World
EAR Statements Can Calm Clients and Anyone, Especially in Today’s World©2021 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.We all need empathy, attention, and respect—especially in…
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Sep 14, 2021
An Interview with Bill Eddy: Calming Upset People with EAR
An Interview with Bill Eddy: Calming Upset People with EAR©2021 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. 1. What does “EAR” stand for and why did you develop it?EAR stands for…
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Apr 14, 2020
7 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People During this Crisis
7 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People During This Crisis©2020 Bill Eddy, LCSW, EsqHow are you doing during this homebound coronavirus crisis? We hope you’re…
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Feb 19, 2020
Understanding Polarization in Families, Groups, and Nations
Understanding Polarization in Families, Groups, and Nations ©2020 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.There is much talk today about polarization. Ironically, few people put…
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Dec 20, 2019
BIFF Communications for Estranged Families
Use the BIFF method — Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm — to write calm responses to hostile messages from estranged family. Examples inside.
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Aug 13, 2019
HCPs and Violence
©2019 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Recent news of mass shootings has made everyone more anxious and fearful that it could, in fact, “happen here.” The search is on for…
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Jun 11, 2019
Can High-Conflict People Change?
Can High Conflict People Change? ©2019 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. This is an increasingly important question in many areas of modern life, including in love…
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Nov 14, 2018
Handling High Conflict Situations During the Holidays
©2018 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Holidays at any time of year can be a time of fun and visiting with family and friends. But it also can be a combustible mix of…
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Oct 10, 2018
Sociopaths and their Deceptions
<p style="white-space: pre-wrap;">Sociopaths, also known as those with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), are some of the most dangerous and deceptive people you will ever know. Yet they also can be some of the most charming. That’s why they are often known as “con artists.” In this article I will give some of the basics of understanding sociopaths, including how they may deceive people in legal disputes. </p>
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Aug 30, 2018
Using the CARS Method® to Deal with High Conflict People and Situations
©2018 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Have you noticed that high-conflict people (HCPs) and high-conflict behavior are rapidly increasing in today’s interconnected…
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Jul 22, 2018
Spotting Dangerous Clients in 3 Steps
©2018 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Family law professionals were shaken to the core by the murders of 6 people by an angry ex-husband in Arizona.The victims included…
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May 17, 2018
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Revisited – Plus an Insider's Perspective of BP
©2018 Megan Hunter, MBA & Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. May is Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness Month Here are some of our thoughts on hope for people with…
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Jan 12, 2018 · 6 min read
Quickly Identifying High Conflict with the WEB Method®
<p>In my newest book, <em>5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life,</em> I introduce the WEB Method for quickly identifying them before they do too much harm.</p>
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Sep 28, 2017
Family Law: 3 Theories of the High-Conflict Case
Family Law: 3 Theories of the High-Conflict Case©2017 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.I do a lot of consulting to family lawyers and their clients (often on the phone…
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Sep 26, 2017
Dating Radar: Your X-Ray Vision In A New Relationship
Dating Radar: Your X-Ray Vision In A New Relationship©2017 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. & Megan Hunter, MBA“He’s just no good for you!”“But I love him!”“She’s…
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Aug 28, 2017
Differences in Dealing with Borderline, Narcissistic and Antisocial Clients in Family Law
Differences in Dealing with Borderline, Narcissistic and Antisocial Clients in Family Law©2017 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.By now, most family law professionals know…
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Aug 5, 2017
10 Paradigm Shifts of High Conflict Mediation
©2017 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. I’ve been doing mediation for over thirty years, primarily in family cases, but also some in business, personal injury, neighbor…
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May 31, 2017
Structure, Skills & Less Stress: How Courts Can Provide Structure for Learning New Skills
Excerpt from The Future of Family Court: Structure, Skills and Less Stress, Chapter 3: Structure & Accountability, by Bill Eddy, LCSW ESQStructure, Skills &…
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Apr 18, 2017
When Helping Hurts - How Professionals Become Negative Advocates - Or Not
©2017 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Most professionals are helping professionals. We like to help our clients as lawyers, mediators, therapists, arbitrators, social…
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Apr 8, 2017
A Respectful Meeting Policy
©2017 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and L. Georgi DiStefano As high conflict personalities appear to be increasing in society and the workplace, we are hearing more…
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Feb 25, 2017
Should Workplace Conflicts use Mediation?
©2017 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and L. Georgi DiStefano, LCSWMediators are being increasingly asked to help resolve workplace conflicts in a peaceful,…
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Jan 19, 2017
How to Reply to Angry Texts & Emails – 5 BIFF Response® Examples
©2017 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Dealing with High Conflict People and their irate communications can leave you at a loss for words. The BIFF Response® Method helps…
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Nov 21, 2016
Calming Holiday Conflicts
Calming Holiday Conflicts ©2016 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.When family and friends gather for this holiday season, it can be a time of joy—and conflict. This year,…
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Oct 12, 2016
4 Ways to Set Limits at Work
<p>Whether you’re dealing with a difficult employee, co-worker or supervisor, setting limits is one of the most difficult and important tasks you can do to get any real work done.</p>
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Sep 29, 2016
Narcissists as Leaders: Good or Bad for Your Organization?
©2013 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Whether in business, politics or workgroups, there is a natural tendency to select narcissistic leaders. They are attracted to…
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Sep 5, 2016
3 Do’s and Don’ts to Manage High-Conflict People at Work
©2016 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. & L. Georgi DiStefano, LCSW Dealing with high conflict people (HCPs) in the workplace presents a variety of challenges. The good…
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Aug 15, 2016
Fire or Keep High-Conflict Employees?
©2016 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. & L. Georgi DiStefano, LCSWFor the past several years, dealing with difficult co-workers has been at the top of employee and…
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Jul 6, 2016
6 Ways You Should Be Assertive in Family Court
© 2016 Bill Eddy, LCSW, EsqFamily court presents a difficult dilemma for reasonable people. If you act reasonably and use the cooperative problem-solving…
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Apr 21, 2016
Personality Awareness Skills
© 2016 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Whether you’re choosing a friend, getting married, deciding where to work, electing a leader (such as a President) or just trying…
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Apr 10, 2016
7 Steps to Tackle Organizational “Splitting”
7 Steps to Tackle Organizational “Splitting”Why it happens. What you can do.© 2016 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and L. Georgi DiStefano, LCSW Organizational splitting…
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Jan 25, 2016
Boundaries in Separation and Divorce
Boundaries in Separation and Divorce© 2016 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., CFLSWhen parents start living in two separate households, they need to redefine their…
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Nov 14, 2015
Keep the Conflict Small! (With Managed Emotions)
© 2015 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Whether you’re having an argument with a family member, friend or co-worker, it’s easy nowadays to make little conflicts way too…
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Nov 11, 2015
New Ways for Work®: A New Coaching Method
© 2015 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. & L. Georgi DiStefano, LCSW High Conflict Institute offers a brand-new coaching method for managing difficult employees and…
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Aug 17, 2015 · 10 min read
Three Theories of Your Case
© 2015 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.We live in an age of easy allegations and elusive truths. We all frequently get sucked into other people’s conflicts in which…
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Aug 12, 2015
Narcissists As Leaders
© 2015 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Georgi DiStefano, LCSW[Excerpt from Chapter 3 of the Axiom award-winning book It’s All Your Fault at Work: Managing…
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Aug 3, 2015 · 8 min read
Red Flags: Spotting High-Conflict Clients in Legal Cases
© 2015 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Most attorneys know that there are potential high conflict clients out there who can make your life miserable with numerous…
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Apr 8, 2015
Are High Conflict People Ruining Your Business?
© 2015 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. & L. Georgi DiStefano, LCSW[Originally published by Capital Business, a subsidiary of the Washington Post, in March 2015]Are…
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Apr 4, 2015
Can You Coach High Conflict People to Change?
© 2015 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and L. Georgi DiStefano, LCSW The answer, of course, is “it depends.” This article explains some of the factors that have helped…
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Jan 20, 2015
Setting the Agenda (For Meetings That Include Potentially High-Conflict People)
© 2015 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and L. Georgi DiStefano, LCSWWhether you are a manager developing the agenda for a team meeting, a mediator or lawyer setting…
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Jan 15, 2015
Why They Don’t Get It?
Why Don't They Get It?© 2015 By L. Georgi DiStefano, LCSW and Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.It’s so aggravating! No matter what you say or do, that certain employee is…
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Jan 13, 2015 · 4 min read
What Baseball Can Teach Us At Work
© 2015 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and L. Georgi DiStefano, LCSWAs both therapists and attorney, we have spoken with hundreds of clients over the years. From…
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Nov 2, 2014 · 10 min read
Why New Ways for Families® is Online
© 2014 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. New Ways for Families® for Separation and Divorce New Ways for Families® is a skills training method for potentially…
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Oct 22, 2014
Should I Just Let Go?
© 2014 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.This blog is dedicated to coping with difficult communications and High-Conflict People. All too often, parents get caught up in…
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Sep 17, 2014 · 6 min read
Hiring a Divorce Lawyer Who Understands High Conflict
©2014 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Excerpt from Chapter 7: Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality…
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Aug 21, 2014
Do's and Don'ts for Living with a Borderline
© 2014 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. You can learn to coexist with a person with a Borderline High Conflict Personality by following these and other tips. DO YOU…
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Aug 6, 2014
Quick Tips for Controlling Communications with a Hostile Ex
© 2914 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Divorce, separation or ending any relationship is tough. It just plain hurts and it can be hard to eat, sleep, work or focus. If…
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May 8, 2014
Should Mediation and Counseling Replace Today’s Family Court? (Part 3)
© 2014 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq In Part I of this article (July, High Conflict Institute/Unhooked Books Report), I addressed the changing clientele of today’s…
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Apr 28, 2014 · 14 min read
Don’t Ask “Why?” Ask “What’s Your Proposal?”
<p>Today’s culture is riddled with disrespectful challenges that are totally unnecessary. Rather than becoming more informed by discussions of current events or other issues, people often end up with personal criticisms, defensiveness, anger and frustration.</p>
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Apr 21, 2014 · 6 min read
Coaching Clients to Make Proposals
© 2014 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Whether you are a lawyer, mediator, collaborative practitioner or other professional involved in dispute resolution, you know…
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Mar 10, 2014 · 17 min read
Parenting Coordination and Skills for High-Conflict Families
© 2014 by Megan Hunter, MBA, and Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.IntroductionParenting Coordination has been growing rapidly around the United States and other countries…
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Feb 11, 2014 · 7 min read
Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT)
© 2014 By Jodie Crump and Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Introduction by Bill Eddy: New Ways for Families®, developed as a project of High Conflict Institute, draws…
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Jan 12, 2014 · 9 min read
Should Mediators Make Proposals?
© 2014 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. When working with high-conflict cases in mediation – or any mediation – it’s not unusual for the parties to turn to the…
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Dec 9, 2013 · 9 min read
When Storytelling Hurts Conflict Resolution
© 2013 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. One of the most common aspects of dispute resolution methods is hearing each party’s story of the case at the start of the…
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Jul 27, 2013
Interview with a Retired-Judge Mediator
© 2013 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. On March 20, 2013, I sat down with Judge Susan Finlay (retired), who became a divorce mediator with the National Conflict…
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Jul 25, 2013 · 8 min read
The 90% Rule
© 2013 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. From my experience as a lawyer, mediator and therapist – as well as reading a lot of research – I believe that at least 10% of…
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Jun 26, 2013
What to Tell the Kids About a High-Conflict Co-Parent
<p>Many parents have asked us about how to raise a child or children with a co-parent (whether a spouse, former spouse or unmarried partner) who is “high-conflict.” In other words, the co-parent frequently exhibits some or all of the following</p>
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Jun 20, 2013
Skills Before Decisions: Can Difficult Clients Learn Decision-Making Skills?
© 2013 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.This article proposes some solutions to recent concerns raised by family lawyers, counselors, mediators and judges. How do we…
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Mar 23, 2013 · 10 min read
Making Proposals
© 2013 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Any problem in the past can be turned into a proposal about the future. Proposals don’t have to be complicated. You can just…
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Mar 7, 2013 · 11 min read
Overcoming the Top 6 Unnecessary Barriers to Settlement
© 2013 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Nowadays, people involved in legal disputes are encouraged to settle their cases out of court. In fact, only about 5% of legal…
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Dec 22, 2012 · 3 min read
How to Survive the Holidays with an Antisocial Relative
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.[excerpted from It's All Your Fault! by Bill Eddy] Don’t Get ConnedWhile Antisocial “Con Artists” are the best at lying and…
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Dec 17, 2012
Prevent the Next Shooting: Focus on the Youth Deficit!
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.I have tremendous empathy for the children, parents, teachers and staff at the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT. They…
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Oct 11, 2012
Pre-Mediation Coaching: 4 Skills for Your Mediation Clients
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Whether you are a lawyer, counselor, manager or other professional, you are likely to be involved in mediation regularly or…
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Sep 28, 2012 · 21 min read
Thoughts on Shared Parenting Presumptions (Part 1/4)
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Thoughts on Shared Parenting Presumptions (Part 1/4) A controversial issue today in family law is whether there should be a…
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Sep 7, 2012
Calm Yourself with Encouraging Statements
<p>When we’re real upset, it’s hard to solve problems. That’s because the problem-solving parts of our brain shut down when we’re real angry, afraid or otherwise defensive.</p>
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Aug 28, 2012 · 9 min read
Splitting at Work: How High-Conflict People Divide Teams
How high-conflict colleagues split workplaces into 'allies' and 'enemies' — and what managers and HR can do to stop the damage. From Bill Eddy.
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Jul 12, 2012
New Ways For Mediation®: Explaining The Method Step-by-Step
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Mediating high-conflict disputes requires a more structured process than that used in most ordinary conflicts. This is…
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Jul 4, 2012
It’s All Your Fault – At Work!
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Have you noticed more people engaging in “high conflict” behavior these days at work? A customer in a store yells loudly at a…
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Jun 11, 2012 · 4 min read
4 Dilemmas in Family Court
4 Dilemmas in Family Court© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.I am writing this in response to a blog comment which raises some important concerns about family…
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May 25, 2012 · 11 min read
Lessons from Steve Jobs’ Biography: HCP or Collaborative Leader?
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. “Plays well with others,” would not be an expression that applied to Steve Jobs at any age. Yet he was the co-founder and CEO…
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May 22, 2012 · 10 min read
Times of High Risk with High Conflict People
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. We all have dealings with high-conflict people, in our families, at work and in our communities. They often catch us by…
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May 21, 2012 · 6 min read
Conclusion on a Shared Parenting Presumption
Bill Eddy's conclusion on adopting a legal shared-parenting presumption, and what it means for resolving high-conflict child custody disputes.
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Apr 17, 2012 · 4 min read
Alienation Update
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Several years ago I wrote an article on Calming the Alienation Debate, which later evolved into my book titled Don’t Alienate…
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Mar 11, 2012 · 4 min read
Managing High Conflict People in Court
BEFORE YOU GO TO COURT© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ Make Sure You Have Realistic ExpectationsIn Court, the judge or jury will never really know what is going…
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Mar 2, 2012 · 12 min read
The Politics of Alienation
The Politics of Alienation© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.I just finished writing a book about child alienation (Don’t Alienate the Kids!), broadly defined as…
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Feb 26, 2012
Beware of HCPs Who Are Persuasive Blamers
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. [Excerpted from It's All Your Fault!] Instead of adapting to their social group and current environment, HCPs try to get others…
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Feb 16, 2012
How Big Is This Problem Today?
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. [Excerpted from It's All Your Fault!] In 2004, a study funded by the National Institutes of Health (N.I.H.) reported that 14.8%…
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Feb 4, 2012
New Ways in Canada for Separating and Divorcing Families
© 2012 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.On Jan. 24 and 25, I did a whirlwind tour of three cities in southern Alberta in Canada, training 60 judges in the New Ways for…
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Oct 18, 2011
Building A Team Against The Problem
© 2011 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Whether you are a manager, mediator, lawyer or other type of professional dispute resolver, one of the common problems you face…
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Sep 1, 2011
Incivility in the Workplace: A Growing Problem
© 2011 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Times have changed. Incivility is growing in the workplace, as well as in most areas of our society. How big of a problem is…
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Aug 14, 2011
Quick Start Guide (for Avoiding A High Conflict Divorce)
© 2011 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Randi Kreger(Excerpt from SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic…
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Jul 8, 2011
Marriage Is Declining Rapidly! Does It Matter?
© 2011 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. I read this week that there has been a significant decline in marriage rates, especially in the past two years. 57% of adults…
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Feb 18, 2011
High Conflict People, Loss and Violence
© 2011 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.Family law attorneys and clients are grieving the shooting deaths two days ago (Feb. 16) of Judy Soley, CFLS and Sandra…
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Feb 1, 2011
Calming Upset People with EAR
© 2011 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD Everyone gets upset some of the time. High conflict people get upset a lot of the time. A simple technique called an EAR…
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Oct 1, 2010
Dental Alienation
© 2010 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. People have asked me how someone can alienate a child against someone else. Actually, it's easy. It only takes 10 steps and a…
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Aug 2, 2010
Can Narcissists Share Parenting?
© 2010 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. In my last blog, I asked the same question about people with borderline personalities. Borderlines and narcissists seem to be…
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Jun 11, 2010
When Math People and Feelings People Negotiate
© 2010 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. As a mediator and as an attorney, I’ve noticed that some cases get stuck because one party is a “math person” and the other…
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May 20, 2010
The Reasonable Parent’s Dilemma
© 2010 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. [Excerpts from the book Don’t Alienate the Kids! Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce, © 2010 by…
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Feb 18, 2010
High Conflict People and Workplace Violence
© 2010 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Now we have another workplace shooting incident to analyze. This one apparently by a female faculty member at the University of…
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Nov 11, 2009
Old Ways, New Ways: How “New Ways For Families®” Is Different
© 2009 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. After over 16 years as a family law attorney (Certified Family Law Specialist), preceded by 12 years as a therapist (Licensed…
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Nov 9, 2009
Don’t Use “Force”
© 2009 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. “I won’t force the children to go with the other parent,” is one of the statements I hear sometimes from parents going through…
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Jul 11, 2009
High Conflict Mediation: 4 Tips For Mediators
© 2009 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.High conflict people (HCPs) are highly defensive, preoccupied with blaming others, and desperate to receive validation for…
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Apr 20, 2009
Con Artists at Work on Wall Street
© 2009 Megan L. Hunter, MBA Reports of financial fraud on Wall Street causing losses in the millions for many Americans have been front and center recently.…
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Nov 11, 2008
Dealing with Dilemmas in Collaborative Practice
© 2008 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Collaborative practice is riddled with dilemmas. One of the common ones is deciding whether we should take this case. “Is it…
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Sep 10, 2008
Lying In Family Court
© 2008 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. When I became a family law attorney/mediator after a dozen years as a therapist, one of the biggest surprises was the extent of…
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Dec 3, 2007
Definitions Related to High Conflict Personalities
© 2007 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. The following are some of the common terms used in the family law community by mental health and legal professionals. The terms…
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Nov 7, 2007
Before You Go To Family Court
© 2007 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Make Sure You Have Realistic Expectations In Family Court, the judge will never really know what is going on in your case. The…
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Sep 11, 2007
Responding to Hostile Email
© 2007 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Hostile email, texts and other electronic communications have become much more common over the past decade. Most of this is…
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Sep 7, 2007
Is Your Child “Alienated”?
© 2007 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. IS YOUR CHILD REJECTING ONE PARENT? In divorce or separation, 10% - 15% of children express strong resistance to spending time…
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Jun 22, 2007
How To Write A BIFF Response®
Use the BIFF method — Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm — to write calm responses to hostile emails and texts. Step-by-step examples from Bill Eddy.
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Jun 5, 2007
Ten Thoughts For Divorcing Parents
© 2007 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Pat knew divorce was inevitable. It was a matter of WHEN? After the children are past the age of 5? 8? 10? 14? They had all tried…
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May 24, 2007
Evaluating Sexual Abuse Reports In Family Court
© 2007 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. One of the most difficult issues which can confront parents, counselors, attorneys and judges is the concern that a child has been…
